So as it turns out things are a little worse than what the doctors originally thought. Turns out when cancers metastasize to or around the brain or spinal cord; you are stage 4 (terminal if you want to be negative about it).
This is my first time dealing with or being around someone with cancer. As far as I can tell my aunt seems just fine. But I can’t tell what is going on inside of her body, let alone her thoughts or feelings.
I have an inkling that maybe her outward show of being positive and optimistic is to help us stay that way too. Yesterday morning I had a chat with my mom and she mentioned that my aunt has been talking about returning to Mexico.
While my grandmother was alive my aunt was the one that went on several occasions to Mexico. She is the only one that has kept contact with family from Mexico.
My mom knows my sister and I plan to travel later this year and felt it would be difficult to ask us to contribute money to send my aunt home one more time. I refuse to say last time, but if it would be, then why not send her right?
My thought was for each family member to pitch in $100 and that would more than suffice for return flights for both my ailing aunt and her brother, my uncle (not the one married to the twat thief).
I mentioned it to my sister, the one I travel with, she says she has to check her funds. At the end of this month we will be buying our plane tickets and JR Pass. I think after that, we will both have a good idea of what we have left and what we can give.
So for my travel partner and I, we can contribute… for myself I can contribute more than the $100. Two of my siblings work and live at home with mom, they can afford it; will they care to is another question. One lives with my aunt and is planning a trip herself, I am sure she could afford to chip in to send off my aunt to the homeland. My last sibling seems to always fret over money and is a homeowner… but with her spending habits I know she is good for it.
Should I bring it up to the rest of my siblings? I think my mom has gotten quite pensive regarding the future of our family; her only sister. She also made mention of kicking her non-rent paying kids out of the house and renting the house out. She is considering retiring to Hawaii with my uncle and aunt. She has 2 years left before she calls it quits at work.
If she rents it will be to me or my traveling sister because she knows we are good for it and won’t stiff her like the rest of my siblings have. Being an adult and watching age, disease and ultimately death take its toll is much more cumbersome and thought provoking with age. Watching my grandparents transition was much different, so many things I didn’t have to worry about.
All of this is forcing me to think of my own mother’s life and my own mortality. Life can be too sobering at times.