So the mister says he hates being a parent. Then why did he have a kid?! Okay so it wasn’t planned and the girl said she “was” on birth control. Turns out she wasn’t, surprise! Who the hell dates a 5150 without a little bit of fear, paranoia and suspicion?
I was naturally fearful of getting pregnant since before I was able to become pregnant. And I went through great lengths to never become pregnant.
Maybe it is a little unfair for me to say I don’t want to be a parent, even if it is just a step-parent. But how fair is it for him to say he hates being a parent. And the mother wiped her hands clean of her premeditated pregnancy because it is now too old to abort and lives in my house. He is the one that dabbled with a lunatic. You play with fire, you generally end up burned.
If he hates being a parent, he can sign over all legal rights and hand the boy off to the state. Problem solved… the mother doesn’t want him and the father doesn’t want to parent. But it would, “Not be right.” Ok then stop complaining about it!
I’m tired, annoyed and over it. But unless the boy runs away from home he is stuck until 18, when legally I can wipe my hands clean and so can his father with out being “wrong”.
Statistically kids are living at home or have moved back after college well into their 30’s. I refuse to become part of that statistic. Sink or swim little guy. If I did it and others out there can do it, DO IT! As an adult he can live off of the government or his mother, I won’t have a loaf under my roof.
I personally see him hitting his teens and having a little rebellious streak that will lead him to run away (though I may be surprise at how much stronger his apathy becomes). He can run, he knows the door is always open if he is unhappy and wants to leave (incidentally he is happy, at least someone is right?). But I won’t be holding that door open a second time. He is lucky I held the door open the first time.
And I only did it out of fairness to my husband. I am such an asshole.